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Summer Book Review #5: It’s Up to the Women!

Last night I happened to catch the tail end of “Invictus,” a 2009 movie starring Matt Damon as Francois Pienaar, a real-life member of South Africa’s rugby team who’s summoned by Nelson Mandela (Morgan Freeman) to rally support in the country and unite the racial divide.  At one point Mandela is speaking about inspiration with Matt Damon’s character and says (and I’m paraphrasing), “how do you get people to be better than they think they can be?”  In the movie Mandela was seeking to inspire folks to simply forgive after decades of horrid, tortuous behavior that divided South Africa.  Decades earlier a first lady, Eleanor Roosevelt, penned “It’s Up To The Women,” daring to inspire the ladies of our country at a particularly horrid time for our nation; the Great Depression.  Both leaders relied on inspiration to get folks to accomplish more than they thought possible.  My summary is the same for transition; we simply need a bit of inspiration. Continue reading

Summer Book Review #4: Back on the Career Track

It’s funny how obscure comments stick in your mind ready to be instantly recalled with a connection – however remote that connection maybe.   I remember standing in my pediatrician’s office when my daughter, who is turning eight next week, was about ten weeks old.   I was talking with my newest friend, the nurse practitioner, who had seen us regularly over the past two months.  We were talking about my upcoming return to work which by the way I was looking forward to.  She made a pithy comment that jumped into my mind this week as I read, Back on the Career Track: A Guide for Stay-at-home Moms Who Want to Return to Work, by Carol Fishman Cohen and Vivian Steir Rabin.   Bernie Lane, the nurse practitioner said, “a happy mother is a happy baby.”  Truth be told I got more out of my conversation with Bernie than from my read of “Back on the Career Track.”

From my perspective Fishman Cohen and Steir Rabin attempted to achieve two objectives in this book:  Continue reading

Summer Book Review #3: The Art of Possibility

I have a friend who uses “barriers” as her most common accoutrement.  Maybe you know someone life this?  She can’t because… her allergy shots don’t allow her to or she has to finish something important.   The litany of reasons grows increasingly serious and worrisome by the year.  I couldn’t help but think of her as I read The Art of Possibility Transforming Professional and Personal Life  by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander.       The authors challenge readers to re-frame  our view of “life” so that both real and imagined barriers no longer impede us but give way to energy and focus.  The decade old best seller is nothing short of inspirational — a great beach read! Continue reading

Summer Book Review #2: Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes

Have you ever had an obscure fact stick with you for a long time?  Here is one that has followed me…  In my late twenties I read Golda Meir’s autobiography, My Life.   Golda Meir, the Prime Minister of Israel from 1969-1974, was a school teacher until the age of 43 (or thereabouts).  There it is.  Isn’t that incredible?  At the time she was only the 3rd woman on the planet to serve as a Prime Minister.  Her mid-life transition has always stuck with me.  Now, I am even more fascinated by it after reading Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes, by William Bridges. Continue reading

Camouflage, transition & summer plans

I hope you all enjoyed a breezy Memorial Day weekend.  We caught our neighboring town’s Memorial Day celebration.   The gentleman who spoke was from the Navy;  pressed whites, well spoken, a selectman.  On Memorial Day he challenged us not to mourn but to live.  He recounted that our fallen heroes had sacrificed it all to give us that chance.   Live.

So, in a quick quiet moment on Memorial Day I Continue reading

Queen for the Day: a triggering event?

Last weekend a dear friend shared with me a quirky reference to “Queen for the Day.” It got me thinking about my transition.  For those unfamiliar with the reference, “Queen for the Day”  was a game show in the late 50s and early 60s. Contestants, all women, would compete for the “highest applause meter” rating by sharing the details of financial and emotional hard times.  The winner would get a “wish list” item like a swanky new Maytag washer.    No Oprah with a ready arm to comfort the participant – just a beautiful new Maytag circa 1950’s.  At first, I found this Queenie reference sad but… Continue reading

Isolation?

My greatest fear in entering a transition was isolation.  Now,  a few months into this, let me say that I had it all wrong.

I left a full-time role in Spring 2010.  My boss often joked in public, “you can work any 60 hours you’d like.”  He believed his approach was both enlightened and funny.

In the past year I’ve embarked on a transition to redefine my work-self.  I put myself in Bucket #5 in my post “Women’s Transitions: a process…” I have more non-negotiables this time.  My work-self has to be integrated into my parenting self.  I have children in first grade  and kindergarten.   It also has to adhere to my idealistic self:  I believe everyone can change the world.  I thrive on ideas and people…

So here is my 180 on isolation…. Continue reading

VIEW FROM THE DELI COUNTER: WOMEN & PERFECTION

This post will clearly be grouped in the quirky “observations” from my transition category.  But first, heartfelt thanks to all of you for the wonderful outpouring of comments and ideas around this launch.  The volume of emails that I’ve received has been enormous.  You’ve given me incredible ideas on how to take Novofemina forward.   More on that in the weeks ahead.  For now, I thought I’d share a chuckle…and an observation. Continue reading

What does NovoFemina Mean?

Novofemina.com is a blog about professional and personal transition issues in women’s lives.  Novofemina is derived from Latin words meaning “women’s renewal.”  It’s constructed from two latin words; novo and femina.  Novo’s latin definition is “to make new; to renew; to change; to re-invent.”  Femina is the latin word for “woman.” Continue reading