Has the New Year brought change for you? Some of us plan changes like, “Get a new job.” “Retire.” “Change my attitude toward food or wellness.” “Regroup with my siblings on decisions related to my mother’s care.” For others, change is thrust upon us unexpectedly, like the woman who shared with me that she had a miscarriage over the holidays. This wrenching event seemed to smother her plans for change in the New Year. Still other changes influence us collectively, like those related to our new administration.
Change felt omnipresent this January. It was everywhere I turned. Or was it? Was it change or something more that I kept encountering?
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“Can I finally start?” It was a question that popped into my head unwittingly as I sat in my office last week. I was trying to shake off the exhaustion from the holidays and begin an avalanche of work that I’d queued up for the New Year. Start what? In acknowledging the question, I felt as if I was on the edge of tears. It took only an instant for this feeling to pass. Even so I realized I’d crossed an important milestone for my transition, one that makes me think about New Year’s Resolutions and new beginnings a little differently. Continue reading
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“I’m not ready,” said Margaret. We were having coffee in a quirky independent coffee shop and talking about her job search. The search hadn’t really started, it was simply brewing on her ‘to do’ list. Margaret is a tour de force locally. She is a newly divorced woman, the parent of two high-school aged children and the volunteer chair of a group that established a multi-million dollar land trust in a neighboring town. This little endeavor is complete with a working organic farm and an impressive educational center. Not ready? How can this type of person not be ready?
I hope that everyone enjoyed a peaceful and happy Thanksgiving. Thanks to many of your voices – 57 Customer Reviews with a 5-star rating – Amazon is featuring the Kindle version of my book through November 30th. Women and Transition: Reinventing Work and Life is on sale for $2.99 for Kindle users.
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We’ve been hearing the word ‘transition’ a lot in these past few weeks. Maybe its time to reflect on how you navigate change in your own personal life. One recent reviewer said, “I found myself at a crossroads that required a major “change.” The book provided a structured framework to plot my next chapter incorporating career, spiritual, personal, and social aspirations. A lifeline!”
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I heard Hillary Clinton’s voice for the first time last weekend – yes, days after the surprising and heartbreaking outcome of the 2016 Election. I heard it in Kate McKinnon’s moving rendition of Len Cohen’s Hallelujah on Saturday Night Live. ‘How could this be?’ You might ask. Weren’t we all party to a near continuous stream of voices from both candidates over the past months? Even with all of that volume I was struck with the weight of the words conveyed by McKinnon. It reminded me of the importance of voice, one of transition’s most critical tools. Did we hear Hillary’s voice? Do we hear yours? Continue reading
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On this, the eve of election 2016 in America, where we are witnessing a historic Presidential bid by Hillary Clinton, I am writing to share my recent op-ed in the Boston Business Journal. In my piece, “Advancement, not access, still an issue,” I highlighted the perpetually dangerous neglect of women’s progress in the workplace.
My piece is exclusively reserved for subscribers of the BBJ, but I have included some excerpts below.
Please remember to make your voice be heard by voting on November 8th!
“Push off into the middle of the river,” intones a line from a poem featured in Hopi Elder Speaks. A friend sent it to me. She is a powerful force whom I’ve met through my work with women and transition. An octogenarian, she leads a global not-for-profit, participates in several wisdom networks and is in a constant state of organizational prep for events, issues and causes that are important to her. I met with her to gain some knowledge about how to architect what today looks like an impossible task. My quest? I’d like to educate women everywhere about the importance of transitioning. My new friend gave me volumes of contacts and helpful specifics. But she also gave me something more important. The courage to keep going. Continue reading
“You’ll be one of the best next year,” offered my son. Unprompted. He is eleven. We were in the kitchen. It was Sunday three weeks ago. I’d just decided to not participate in a sprint triathlon, an event for which I’d been training for months. A quirky injury sidelined me. I was crushed. In the grand scheme of things this was minor – hardly a blip. If I was still pre-transition, I would have simply gone on that day and not said a word about it to anyone. Instead, my transition inspired me to give voice to my disappointment. I was struck by my son’s humanity and emotional intelligence. Our typical exchanges are single words conveyed over an electronic device. His pivot made me reflect on how much of myself I can bring to interactions with others. It is my choice just like it was his. I can mimic the sentiment of his single word responses or his deft comment. How much of my voice do I choose to engage? Continue reading
Have you ever felt as if you are bumping into the same issue over and over again? Everywhere you turn? Such events may be reminding you that it is time to start your own business or leave a fallen marriage or pick up the phone to call a long-silent friend. I am a little disturbed and amazed at how frequently I keep bumping into something of my own lately. It keeps happening. I can’t name it although I think it has something to do with identity. My identity? I’ve been transitioning for the better part of five years. Could there be more to do?
“I gave myself permission – thanks to being a part of this group ,” said Stephanie. She was crediting a multi-session working group that I put together to help me develop a workbook, a companion to my book, Women & Transition. Over the course of our sessions together we learned that Stephanie had been laid off a year earlier from her job as a research and development manager for a tech behemoth, a job that she’d held in some form or another for almost twenty years. We also learned that our work together helped her dignify a small voice in her head that kept leading her away from R&D and tech. She was excited and scared about her new path. I was really struck by her words. I felt as if she and I were in the same place. How could this be? My transition is farther down the garden path than hers. Isn’t it? What was it about permission that spoke to me?